A secret talk

1 You and the other party in the conversation in progress, aimed at people talking all clear, others could not hear, do not understand, is a waste. When voices to be clear, the speed to heterozygosity. Said one, people will understand one. Good conversation, should be used generous, skilled statement, but there is a rich vocabulary that can cope with the talk of the need to make the contents of colorful, exciting.

2 on the train, in the plane, or in someone else when firecrackers, raised his voice to speak is a last resort, but usually it is not necessary nor too loud. If in a public place, it will make your partner feel embarrassed.

3 spoke rhythmically, appropriate speed, cadence is the only secret to get the audience. Should not forget that when the fast to be fast, to be high to high, to slow to be slow. Because the purpose of our meeting was to illustrate some things that people take an interest. So to clear, to express.

4 knows how to use voice, tone and attitude, etc., is not enough, speak words into a sound approach is to speak to the more simple the better, not much use words when words do not say, should be playing in the brain well, one would like to express the meaning of his own very simple outline, and then narrated according to this profile.
 
5 issue per say, to create a new term to a term in the same period in duplicate to use, will be annoying. A term used to describe a variety of objects can not simultaneously. And you said no sense with the mantra, or try to avoid it. 

6 playful elegance rather coarse language Liyan, it might sound, I feel fresh and interesting, and occasionally learn to talk, Sekihisa it becomes habit, the result is casually out. Imagine those words in the social field, giving heard how the offensive will happen? One improper words will immediately reduce your status.

7 too esoteric term not much use unless you are a scholar and academic discussion of an issue, otherwise mouthful esoteric terms, that the use of appropriate, is not very good, casual abuse of the term academic, did not understand people do not know what you say, and you would think that he intends to show off in front of your scholarship; understand people would think almost shallow.
  

Second, speaking skills

1 you can continue to talk with anyone on the other side became interested in leaving ten minutes, then you are first class communicative character, because "anyone" This range is very wide. If you have common sense, even if you can not have a variety of expertise knowledge, but also sufficient to meet all kinds of people. Because even if you can not cope with the flow, you will always ask questions. Questioning, is to make the other side open the master key. Questioning, then the other side is the best way to open the box. But though it is trivial for questioning, but rather questioning techniques have to consider study.

2 We want to persuade people to say, then do not say before, let's give people some praise, people to taste some sweet, and then you say the words of exhortation, they will be easy to accept. No matter what others say, you can not just correct his mistakes, if so the resentment caused by the other party, you can not become a good listener up. Criticism or comments, we must pay attention to the timing and attitude, but the most important thing is not to hurt his dignity. Otherwise, a good thing becomes a bad thing.

3 If you want people to comply with what you mean to do something, always discuss the application of the tone. For example, there is a requirement under the charge of doing things, always consult with the tone, said: "? You do not see it this way," although he stood commanding position, but he knows people are not like commands, so do not It should be the tone of command.
 
4. So every time we come into contact with a person, you must look at the surrounding environment, and to understand how the other side lives recent case, if the other party is proud, you can not be proud of in front of him say the words light, saying too good: in front of proud people do not say frustrated words. 

5 To others like you and believe in your own opinion, you have to supply each other quite sufficient information. As people enough to believe your opinion, is neither blind obedience nor arbitrary. At the same time, you have expressed willingness to consider different opinions of others and you, ask them to ask more instructions, explanations and evidence to make you believe. You said that if the other party can make you believe his views, then you abandon your own original views at once.

6 lip, put a torrent, are bad manner of speaking. Lip does not mean you're talking on the contrary, the lack of enthusiasm to prove that you speak and irresponsible. As for talk like put a torrent, and that only boring, because you an opening, others will not have the opportunity to open their mouths, the result is certainly knocked.

7 Press words are iron, silence is golden argument, said silence is better than many words. Speech is the shadow of a person's behavior, we often due to many and wounding words, verbal assault, rather than stab wounds; easy to recover from illness because of wounds, tongue injury refractory. Say innocuous nonsense trouble. The so-called Loose lips sink ships, say more than defeat. Only silence will never betray you, to remain silent is to protect its own security.

8. A calm listener, not only popular everywhere, and will gradually know many things. Then more is better, then less, then less as good, then say it is better to know that even a thousand words, and a fact not left impressed. Say is a symbol of vain, where a moral person, not much to say; those who have faith, will not many words; seeking talented who do not have much to say. Say get tired, take a bubble thin, lightly take the insult. Only silence, people will think you are a philosopher.
9 if to say something, then the contents of what you said, meaning, language, voice and gestures, are not without attention. In what situations, what should be said? What to say? Deserve to be studied. Whether it is to explore knowledge, business contacts, while socializing or entertainment, all kinds of spoken words from our mouth, there must be the focus, to be more specific and vivid. Is not it pours.
  

Third, difficulty speaking
1 is a two-way speaker, or even many, a good conversation, not only talk, but also very good at listening, not only put their own words is good, but also good at listening to other people, and himself to say, are not the same as speech, can completely ready in advance, according to speak correctly, but can have a lot of resourcefulness.

2 When you are faced with a person talking, if you only have a large set of a large set of words to put yourself out like a good, but not understand each other's views and interests, can not observe each other, then you are going to react, there what questions can not be timely to lift the other psychological crux, then you can not be a good talker.

3 at the time of the conversation, your mind at least two lines along the development of a line of your own, a line is the other. On the one hand you certainly have your own stand methods, attitudes and reasoning, on the one hand you have to know how to approach each other's position, attitude and reasoning, if the object you are talking to, not just one person, then you work on more complex aspects of care to which you want even more. Because each person's thoughts, hobbies and speculation is different. 4. Let others say, on the one hand is your humility, to make others happy, on the one hand, you can take the opportunity to observe each other's tone look and oncoming, give yourself a chance to guess, this is the co-existence of methods.

5. on social networking, we often see a lot of people, because I like the different opinions expressed, and others, and so offend a lot of friends. Why should we and others argue happen? The cause is due to different ideas from each other, so each knot on hatred, which for everyone to survive the worst thing in the activities of the community, the so-called enemy less a good one, because everyone has his pride.
6 speak to faith, not duplicity, hypocrisy slick, almost everyone, is more like a loyal friend.

Hongwei career counselor, general manager and chief consultant Guo Ce Tips: French philosopher Luosifeike said: "talking with people, other than to say if his own good, would Friends become enemies, and vice versa, can be of enemy for friends "affect the validity speak, like a big; personal good talk, including the correct pronunciation, the appropriate speed, rich statement, words with a little humor and a beautiful gesture, etc., which can rely on learning and exercise and successful, professional and want to experience and discretion in communicating with people in.